So on the run up to Fathers’ Day (I will happily accept random presents!), I thought that I would do a post as to a few things that dads have to cope with, which mums don’t!
Being the only man in playgroups
A main reason why I started to blog was a time when I was the only male adult within a playgroup containing 40 children – it was a horrible experience and certainly made me question how inclusive society was. It wasn’t a regular playgroup for us, but it was very uncomfortable for me, and I felt as though I was on show somewhat. I wrote about it here. As such, if you come across a situation, smile, say hi, and it will make a huge difference.
On the plus side, the queue for the toilets was non-existent!!!!
Fortunately, as time as moved on, we have both developed our confidence and now at least 1 of us can put some moves on the dancefloor at raves!!
Are you babysitting?!
Arghhhhh! No, I’m not and I’m not Daddy Day Care either! I’m trying to play an active part in my child’s development, just like virtually every single mum does in the world! I felt so strongly about this, I got a t-shirt with the message on it – funnily enough, I got the most compliments from when I was in Florida wearing it.
As you can probably guess, male toilets are grim at the best of times. They are much, much worse when you have a toilet training girl who likes to talk!!
In truth, nappy changing facilities were never too much of an issue as they were looked after quite well, but when you have to take a curious little girl into a cubicle, you just hope that she doesn’t ask any questions or make any comments!
I tend to find that finding a disabled toilet is the best solution to this problem, although in certain places, they are secured by a radar key and as such, they are not possible to use!
Somehow, dads tend to feel guilty for having time off because our little one is ill and needs looking after. Sometimes a child needs both parents, or just wants their daddy and whilst workplaces are generally accepting of the fact mum needs to head off home in an emergency, this hasn’t passed over to the need for dad to do the same.
There was a time when I had “the phone call” to say Heidi was on her way to A&E with a suspected broken arm at 4pm, and so I raced to hospital (after telling my managers). The next day, no-one asked how things had gone or how either of us were, they only asked why work hadn’t been completed in the evening!!
Hopefully this is something that can change to help both mums and dads.
Whilst the point of this blog post isn’t a “woe is me” moan about being a dad, after all, it is the best job in the world, it is just to point out some of the hidden problems dads face. Having said that, we certainly don’t have to deal with leaky boobs, stretch marks and all the things Mum has to deal with!!
I think that the main point is that regardless of if you’re mum or dad (or some other variation), being a parent is really hard work!! As such, if you think someone you know needs a hand – offer and show that you care. I think that we all need that little bit of help and understanding along the way because we cannot do it alone.
However, no matter if you’re mum or dad, no matter how many challenges are in your way, so long as you love your child as much as is humanly possible, you’ll be the best parent in the world in the eyes of your child and that is the most important thing.
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